In the first part of this 2-part video, we learn how the “domestication” of men and how all the rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us by a system of punishment and reward. As young children, our true nature is to love and be happy, to explore and enjoy life; We are absolutely authentic. But then we learn to be what others think we should, and because it`s not normal that we are who we are, we start pretending we`re not what we`re not. When we are teenagers, we have learned to judge ourselves, to punish ourselves and to reward ourselves after agreements that we have never chosen. The four agreements help us break self-limitation agreements and replace them with agreements that bring us freedom, happiness and love. As for intransition, this word certainly has the connotation of perfectionism, and if we take it that way, we would indeed go crazy. (Besides, the impeccability and other agreements you make with yourself, not the requirements that Ruiz imposes on you.) On the other hand, if you engage perfectly with your word as your goal, if you commit to be as honest and kind as possible with your words, without waiting for perfection of yourself or to fight if you are too short, this agreement could improve your well-being with yourself. – Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want. – Communicate with others as clearly as possible to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.
– With this agreement, you can completely change your life. His son, Don Jose Ruiz, then published a sequel with his father, entitled The Fifth Agreement, which adds another agreement:  The Four Agreements©, published in 1997 and sold about 9 million times. He has been on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly a decade. Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are those we make with ourselves. If your faith creates deep happiness in you, then I say, keep it. If they cause trouble, if the beliefs of others are different, consciousness can leave you with the choice of what you believe and what you let go. Many of our convictions, our concepts, our agreements were nourished to us as “truth” when we were young, and we accepted them literally and completely. The beginning of the four chords is about how we were domesticated by our caregivers in a “dream” of life. The only dream they gave us was the one they lived, which they received most often from their parents, etc.
The idea is that over time, the impact of other people`s opinions has become a very strong force in the habits we have created in our lives. During this process, we have made “agreements” in our minds about who and what we should be. Over time, we have learned to live our lives on the basis of these agreements. It turns out, therefore, that the decisions we make today are motivated by the opinions of others of the past and not by those we ourselves would have chosen. In his book, Don Miguel Ruiz offers us four principles that we can practice to break the boundaries created by others, so that we can build a happier and more successful life for ourselves. I have neither read nor planned this book. I saw these four chords on the wall in a yoga teacher house and laughed. These tenants are what Saniel Bonder, the founder of Waking Down In Mutality, would call hyper-masculine ideas to improve us. They could improve our lives for a while, but like all self-improvement projects, they imply that ultimately we need more self-insurance. Although there is an important place for the action component in life (the male strength), it is necessary to reconcile it with the softer outfit and to accept the maternity qualities of the deep feminine. Truly loving us for and with all our human weaknesses is the key to the non-judgment of ourselves and others, and a surprising impudence.